Child Possessive of His Toys? This is what you need to do

Children who are possessive of their toys will usually feel annoyed, angry, or even cry when their toys are borrowed by others. As if, nobody should hold his belongings, as well as his parents. So, how to solve it? The possessive section of children happens at the age of 18 months to four years. At that age, children have an understanding that the objects they have are only their own. That is why many children are very possessive of their toys and do not want to share them with others, even with their siblings.

Tips for Overcoming Possessive Children to Their Toys

Actually, the possessive introduce kids is a normal issue to happen, really, Mom. In addition to being possessive of their toys, children can also be possessive of their mother, father, or loved ones. However, this should not be taken lightly and Mothers should not silence the behavior of the Little One. If this possessive nature is not controlled properly, your little one can develop into a selfish person and don't want to share, you know. Don't let this make it difficult to make friends later. Well, to overcome possessive children towards their toys, here are the steps you can take:

1. Don't force the child

The first thing that needs to be done is not to force the child. The more we force him to share toys, the less he will listen to what we have to say. It is possible that your little one will do what you ask, but with compulsion and without understanding the meaning behind your advice. This doesn't even train him to share, Mom. Maybe, your little one gets annoyed every time they have to share.

2. Give an explanation that is easy for children to understand

Forcing a child will only put him in a bad mood. If your little one is reluctant to touch other people's favorite things, you should give him an explanation. Use the simplest possible sentences, so that he is persuaded to share the item.

For example, “Deck, sharing is a good thing, you know. If you don't want to share with other people, then other people won't want to share with you either. Just imagine, do you think Adek would like to be treated like that?”. If the value of sharing continues to be reminded of the baby, gradually his heart will be moved to share and start lending his favorite things with pleasure.

3. Often invites children to play together

Playing with friends can train the spirit of sharing children naturally and is also beneficial for their growth and development and intelligence. However, in the midst of a pandemic like now, it's best for your little one to play at home, right, Mom.

Therefore, Mother, Father, and other family members should be able to take the time to invite the Little One to play together. This moment can also be a medium of learning so that he is willing to share or lend his favorite things. Remember, sharing is not only with friends, children also have to learn to do it with their closest family. After he understands the meaning of sharing with family, then the attitude of sharing with friends will develop by itself.

4. Teach children to negotiate

Teaching your child about the meaning of negotiation can also help him become less possessive of his toys. If your little one starts to look stingy and doesn't want to lend his toys to others, instead of yelling and scolding him, it's a good idea to negotiate with him.

The key to negotiation is finding a win-win solution. Look for solutions that can make children want to share without feeling annoyed and even feel benefited afterwards. For example, if he wants to share a toy, you will extend his playing time by 10 minutes. Overcoming possessive children towards their toys is not easy and it takes extra patience so that your little one understands what you are teaching. 

If, after applying the tips above, your child still doesn't want to share and is still possessive about his toys, don't hesitate to ask a child psychologist for advice to find out how to train a child that fits his personality.